Codependency?

My husband is an alcoholic. This is nothing new; he’s been like this as long as we’ve been together. But lately it’s starting to bother me more. I think we were initially bonded over both having addictions – my bulimia and his alcoholism. But as I’ve taken steps in my recovery – reduced purging, smaller binges – he’s remained the same or even gotten worse. We’re no longer at the same places in our addictions, and while I’m actively trying to get better, he doesn’t seem to care. He keeps promising he’ll cut down, but that lasts maybe a week before he’s falling down drunk again. I love him like crazy and absolutely don’t want to leave him or even consider the idea, but I don’t know how to make him want to get better. I just want him to try, honestly. Seeing him not even trying makes my resolve weaken and I end up eating shit I’d promised myself I wouldn’t. How do I fix this?

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2 thoughts on “Codependency?

  1. I’m the same way when I consider my husbands pornography addiction. I just want him to try HARDER then what he thinks is ‘trying” but then a part of me says you know what, he’s not trying so why should I try?

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